Usually, most of us try to see the ‘full half of the glass’ and whenever we find ourselves in challenging situations we say that everything is going to be alright, things will work out for the best and that it’s not a big deal. I recently found myself in such a situation and I remembered it’s not the first time I’ve noticed this so I started wondering if maybe this thing that we call Optimism isn’t just Denial in disguise.
Don’t take this the wrong way, I’m a very big fan of the silver lining and you can definitely count on me to see the good in everything but how do we know to differentiate the situations when we are just making a big deal of something small (we have a saying in Romanian that goes: making a horse from a mosquito. Don’t ask.) from the ones when we really need to stop saying that it’s going to be OK and realise that it’s NOT going to be and we need to take active actions towards the result we want?
What helped me was zooming out. Try seeing your life like reading a book or seeing a movie and try to see people and actions objectively, as things that do not affect you. Reading this book, what would you want to discover between the pages? If you were seeing you life at a cinema, would you go ‘Nooo, don’t do that!’? You are the director in your life’s movie – the decisions you make are yours and only yours because at the end of the day YOU are the one that has to live with them and YOUR wellbeing should be your priority.
Sometimes we get absorbed in life’s carrousel or get too busy with our daily routine and we just go with the flow. Personally, I think only dead fish go with the flow. I believe life should be embraced and that we should make each day matter, even if all we did is learning that there are no penguins at the North Pole, only South and some other isolated regions (really, I’m not joking).
From time to time, when we feel overwhelmed or when we realise we have been frustrated with something for longer that we should have, it’s good to take a break, take a step back and ask ourselves if we are actively pursuing our life goals, what we are doing wrong, what are we really good at and then re-evaluate our priorities, give up the things that don’t help us grow and decide to take on more things that do.
As one Pinterest inspirational quote said, you are the CEO of your own life and it is only up to you to achieve success. Don’t hang around waiting for the days to pass by, our time is limited. Make it count.
Happy New Year!
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